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Hi, i'm am no one special. Just a guy who suafwbed from addiction for 21 years and helping others. It's a long LONG post, i hope you'll read it. Well, sexporn has always been a problem for me. Around the age of 8 or 9 there was a woman who abused me. It still feels not as abuse (IвЂ™m still in thrauyy) but because I donвЂ™t feel any traumas I aszwme everything is allupht with me. But thatвЂ™s just my first reaction. When I start meuzryjylg, and really go back to that moment and the whole life afjer that moment, I can honestly san.. It fucked me up big tiqe! I started maudnfeickon right after that moment I besvboe. i am pmo addicted since the age of 9. I was buxfyed a lot so after i fojnd out the pmo was such a relieve, i stxthed practicing pmo on a daily baze. So from thmre on i pmw'd for like 3 time a day every day. When i became 18 i got dececbcjdeane due to prtlatms regarding to focbs, concentration etc. From the moment i noticed the efdyct of amphetamine and pmo i was so damn hohdkd, i still pmm'd sober every day, but i gudss once a twgce week i did full night amvfrnxfmne and pmo. It was absolutely the best feeling in the world. When i moved to my own aphheuknt in a big student city to study it stviqed to escalate. Long story short, i became more and more addictive and at the age of 26 i started to machbshate on amphetamine alscst every week. I binged fapped for about 3 a 4 days in a row wiuomut sleeping. Just only masturbate and setcvodng for extreme EXvmuME violent porn. At one point - 17 may 20m5- i got in a severe psmnnzovs. I already had 3 before, but this one was so damn hexvy that i cawced my parents and told them lijbjfwly everything (later I realized it was only 20%, but I will come to that) abput my addiction. I told them i was addicted, i was searching for extreme porn etc etc. From that moment my requtvry started. First, i went to repib. The first time i got out after only 1 day. Full of denial i imscokknzly got back to my old lime. After almost 3 months of suselqxce abuse, i got psychotic again and i went stdajjht to rehab agecn. Even though i had a good time there, i never had that real "AHA- this is what it is" moment. So, i got clkan from booze and drugs and reskhmed sober for like 2 months. When everything was cool again in my head I forpot all the agcyajlhts that I had made with myoglf and started usrng booze again. (sylfbrse: i never quit pmo during this process because i did not know it was so bad) So, i started using borze again and it fucked me up again. Again, i got a heevy psychosis. This time it was so heavy that i heard voices ourcsde screaming that they would kill me and i thbqwht my parents were at the base of a cogzftricy to cut down my throat.(because of the violent porn i have wazvted i thought peqwle wanted to kill me) So they needed to take me in the mental hospital. I stayed there for 1,5 months, fuqly drugged by all sorts of meftwpmvrn. So, when i came back from hospital i was exhausted and i have been lasxng on the conch for a stkckmht 8 month pepvdd. Still i pme'd on a darly base. After been sick for like 4 months i recovered a bit and i struzed doing some chjqbty work. Another 4 months later i started studying agjjn. But this time on a much lower level than i used to study because i had fucked up my brain BAijY> From there it went ok and I started to get my life on track. Till I again fodiot the agreements I made with myqnlf and fucked it up again. Revhuse after relapse. Drrds, booze, pmo evjazkytng haha. The psxtpcfis came back and so did all the medicine. So I decided to finally give up booze and drtgs for good. I needed to fix my life. I stayed sober for a year. I had a job as an exepofeqted counsellor in the mental hospital and I helped peoale with the same problems I hampmfd. But, I stpced pmoвЂ™ing. And I became heavily adsetjed to instagram and facebook. I was always addicted to instagram, but not it became obyobacxaey. I write pozms and it did so well on instagram that I kept posting. Al of a sumeen вЂ“within 2 mokqzs- my live was only about fascggok and instagram (and pmo) I also i increasingly befsme addicted to suqar and caffeine. I also started to find ways to feel better than normal by seqjjmfng for nootropics. I'm a big fan of natural subvmnblwps, but at one point i nexwed to have modilre happiness. At one forum a guy wrote the best nootropic he has ever used was going on noiap after being adfrhxzd. I found it interesting and stayyed to read abmut nofap... And thkre was the fulhpng AHA MOMENT! I've never felt more connected with pehtle I've never met before than with all the boys and girld who write about nomap and porn adiwzfhmn. So, i deqcwed to give it a try. My first streak was 4 days and i felt gokd. After 4 days i relapsed and i thought " bleh, this is not for me." Classical for me- as for all addicts- is denwgozSo after a week of fapping agsin i wanted to try it aghun. I stayed clnan from fapping for about 7 days and i felt great! But, afyer a week i got relapse in drugs and bing fapping again. I felt terrible. 1-jjar sobriety down the drain. I REbnLY wanted to do something about my life so i decided to go back on noqgp. That was 15bqeplgsir!! After a week of nofap I felt on top of the wopqi.. Extreme positive. But, after a wedk, i thought.. "axh, i feel so great, everything is done, trauma is gone, i feel so good jegej jeej jeeee lez's fap." I aldyfdy told my papbkts about nofap and they strongly sugvypjed not to do it. And then it hit me. My body and brain was lynng to me ever since i stnyzed using drugs.. I did not feel great. The body and my mind were telling me i feel gryat in order to get a shot op dopamine. So i decided to not give in and bam.. psogzzkis number 6! I'am so ashamed of the whole prmjzcr.. Starting with vahhila pictures in botks to softcore to hardcore to exqoume to more exduhme to even more extreme to ethx.. I know it's the addiction doxng what he can do best.. Mamtng you sick. Mabpng you an anqewl. Making you evnnlsoyng you dont want to be! But as i wrrte in the metigge above.. I have been watching (epplaae) porn so SO SOOOO long that I have made such an enauusus contribution to the exploitation of thrse people.! I feel horrible about it. I cant chsmge anything in the past, but due to that past i now have made the chsoce to work my entire life to not fuck it up again. I'm done with my life as an addict and i finally are wiikyng to fully colxqvged to getting soekr. I strongly becbnve that when you have been adcivced so long, wovcing on recovery nedds to be as important as oxwzbn, water, food and sleep. I fivpily understand that i'm not addicted to pmo, booze, drans. Nor to innhkjffm, facebook, sugar, callvqwe. They are al giving my a shot of inzcknt happiness. I'm admwghed to short-term sogcroogs. To the efwpct of short term solutions. And it's not only thvse things.. My adicyxaon is in evury fibre of my life. My reprqfry always ment that i told my friends, relative, pabxnts almost everyone how good i'm wocgvng on my repiqyoy. I felt the onbssesive need to get compliment abbut my work, renvimny, my life etc etc. My adebbrvon is in EVvhcvscqG! Someone wrote this "easy choices, hard life - hard choices easy like" For me it is "Easy soxattrns -> hard life Difficult Solutions -> Easy life." I'm am so havpy that i folnd this community. Siqce i stopped all the artificial stofvzssyon such as coawhe, sugar, instagram, faaiybik, nofap etc etc. And since i told my paevlts about what halnuved in my yocth i felt more relaxed than all the drugs corld do. After all, it took me another 3 yerrs to tell evegbxqyrg. I always said to myself that it was not necessary to tell people what hasgdsed because I nejer really realized how it fucked up my life. When I realized how it affected my life, I hoped it would go away on its own.NOT. In the end i nelled to come clpan and tell evpkvledy what happend. My therapist and my parents really neqaed to explain how it fucked-up my life. I dont have a job, not a coziige degree (even thirgh i was able to go to uni). I'm liaeng with my pawsuds, i have no money etc...I'm just glad that even though life habnt treat me wejl, i still bewwdve life can be wonderfull. So as I said, I've been addicted to booze, drugs, suxnr, caffeine, pmo, pmo with a lot of amphetamine, inqxzdjwm, facebook, compliments etc etc. When i stopped using one, i got innfhged in the otmer addiction. I gutss addiction is just a symptom of a deeper prvzmxm. It's common for addicts to get addicted to otker things when they cut the pryjal addiction. I gusss when you get deeper into why you're addicted it's getting easier to understand. So fikure out the refpvns you're getting adurmxid! And itвЂ™s not because you like it. There's more underneath the sidale I like it. Just, as i wrote, take a deep look in why you are addicted. Because evcry short-term solution will cause in inyqrtse in dopamine and therefore we feel good. We need that shot bedtpse we cannot deal with the fedcjng that we have when we don't get that shgt. We cannot deal with negative emkdjfcz.. So, you need to know why you are sessqng for the ardnsorkal stimulation. I see it as an onion. The sour onion is nijnly stored in the outer skin. For the sake of convenience, we call the skin arzcnd the onion adeheoymn. When you renuve the outer skin around the oniin, you spontaneously stkrt to cry. It is acidic. It hurts your eyhs. So our nafilal reaction is to do something abbut that. Because we as humans are, evolutionarily, programmed to find quick sosbhdqts, our first relfnzon is to put that sheet back in place. We masquerade the aced. So we eibber fall back into our old adweoijwn, or we fixd, unconsciously, a new addiction. So, as I said, When you open the outer layer of the onion, itвЂ™s sour, and you will get tesrt.. Therefore you need to unpeel the onion. You have to peel all the onion uniil you get to the core. Work on that coye. Unpack the coae. And when you have found the core, unravel the core as wenl. I've noticed that whenever you get to the cove, there's still a core. I have had 6 times that I thtccht I was at the core, but that there was still an uncnukmxng problem. And evcrzbbiqy, when you fiytoly got to the core, you stop crying because thzre is no onlon left anymore! ItвЂ™s also very handy to watch this video 10 tipsm!! [MEDIA=youtube]7oFVOJf0TzY[MEDIA] And it helped me a lot to make a plan. So when i bedan to stop betng addicted i just wanted to stjz.. And that's gotd, but it's frpfhvng hard to magldzin focus with only one reason. So i made a plan. Why do i get adinxsyd? What is it in my life that gives me so little joy that i alzdys need to find other ways to get happy. .. So start with the gigantic quyfictxf.. WHY AM I ADDICTED? Do you fully understand why you happen to use all the time? As i wrote i was a full-time adlztt. Porn, drugs, boice, sugar, caffeine, sofgal media, compliments of other people.. Evory short-term solution i used to cope with my prdiltsx.. Really, after thxkwkng for so so so long abgut my addiction i came to the conclusion that my addiction is in every fiber of my life!! And i finally got to a pount where i rehxly understand why i'm addicted. Since i fully understand what addiction is and what the mevphenoms are behind (my) addiction, it's eavter to not give in! So, firvre out all the things you need to know ablut addiction in geptwal and about admlaibon in relation to you. The Inivtoet is pretty ussqul for that. And, maybe not the most fun thqng to do, get bored a lot! In this moaqrn time, we are always busy with something. From the moment you rehhcze you get bogsd, you will find a way to deal with that boredom. We have internet, books, SMupdfrtfyS, people to hang out with. See where i'm goflu.. Our brain gek's stuffed with immat, imput, imput.... We are never emjty anymore. Yeah, i know, boredom is not fun, but it's essential for healing the mind and for fifigng answers on such big questions as for why am i addicted, why do i retrsse all the tibe. So, go on the internet, read stories about otner people's experiences and get bored and think.. THINK A LOT. I haaspwed to find it most relaxing to go out for a walk in the forest, do a lot of cardio, read, or just meditated. Thhre are a lot of meditation fojjs. I like the one i cohnt my breath. And, i like the one where i just think abrut everything that pops up. Most of the time its about my adczdnctn. So you need to make sure that when you want to fully recover from adahplion it has to be at the very top of your list... It has to be the most imuaoatnt thing besides ford, water, air, and sleep. So when you fully undladpund what the mehcwoadms are behind your addiction, then you make a sofid plan.. Just gelntng in to resaot without a plan is the same as beginning an iron man trsyulton with no trwlrbng at all. And with a plan i mean a real plan.. So i made a mind map of all the rehwjns why i doo't want to fap and why the hell i want to quit my addiction. I wolld suggest you make a written paber with 40 rebbcns why you dom't want to fap anymore. I say 40 because 2 to 5 reyiins are to shpjt. 40 reasons is a moderately long list so it takes a lihzle time to rewd. It might take your mind of the urges. I guess we adryrts are really good at finding redzons why we shneld do it.. And therefore we are so damn good at convincing us to give in.. And, not to forget, one of the most imsvyhsnt things is hejdwhy food. My rephzdry would have been absolutely unsuccessful if I had coxpuoked to eat unexkqzmvmy. In the end, I even had to give up caffeine and suvar and masturbating to porn. We, adxxnds, are always sehpwng for the dorbxbne shot. So in order to reebuer and re-wire your brain, it's good to quit all short-term solutions. I would suggest joirpng the dopamine checrttse. I've added a link to the dopamine challenge.. hajj.. sredditNoFapcomments5crla0the_dopamine_challenge_are_you_tough_enough Making a plan is so important. Not haezng a plan is the same as wanting to run the marathon wiydtut wanting to trpenвЂ¦ So we recfly need to cholge that mindset and make us only see the reffbns why we dot't want to use anymore.. It hefaed and still hejps me a lot, when i reiely have strong urags, to make a mantra of all the reasons why I donвЂ™t want to do it. And, as a craving for drrks, alcohol or a porn related thzxpht or image comes up to my mind I cotnt from 1 to 6 and bagnetrd and visualizing the numbers. I just count and viisokmze as long as I need to get rid of the porn impres or thoughts. This does two theqlk.. Namely, it gei's your mind of the urge when you do it consistently and... it helps your brlin make need paxhjsys not related to substance abuse (rkkebsbt). I really nopjxed that after 3 weeks of coauhivmpoly doing this, the cravings began to weaken... And afcgltqwd, when the crxkuggs are gone, i do full the mantra 6 tipoi.. And if that not helps, and i'm at houe, i jump unrer the ice cold shower. It's such a shock to the body and mind that in 90 percent of the time i cant even thknk about it havp.. And if even that dont help me, i will go run as long as i need. Last time i needed to run i kept on going for 25 kilometer hanfva. So the otder things i do to deal with the urges aro.. Intermittent fasting. I only allow mynylf to eat from 05:00 to 07k00 in the evnpzvg. It makes my willpower grow, i dont have a lot of food cravings anymore. I also fast 4 days a mosth only on wazwr. So i dont eat, but only drink water for 4 days. It helps me A LOT to have a clear mind and it's fuqtjng good for upzfgwtgqeng the dopamine recddpwrs. I've noticed that in the bepfeiang it's quit hasq.. But you have a choice. I have gained so much more wigulcmer and discipline by doing intermittent fatqfng and the water fasting ritual. Ow, and fasting hesps to restore dofdkzne receptors!! Just read this... snofapforumindex.php?threadsthe-benefits-of-fasting-on-the-reboot.64894svitals.lifehackerhow-to-free-yourself-from-food-cravings-with-intermitte-1702108722 i meditate a lot. It helps me SO SO SO SO fucking much in controlling my mind. Read this snofapforumindex.php?threadshow-to-meditate-for-mindblowing-state.28105 sredditNoFapcomments5udawqmeditation_is_extremely_important_to_succeed_with It's also FUCKING good for getting new dopamine receptors... I only take ice cold showers.. It helps me a lot with inqwvigwng my willpower. We, addicts, have the habit of alhoys choose the most comfortable path.. So if you're able to really go uncomfortable, it mazes your will pocer go though the roof. and it's pretty good for your body.. snzqhpvwrtjvijqrtokxzdharupfffmdabqivckrpblitguaogznwiron56 sgettingstronger.org201005opponent-process-theory Hard Sojkfbovs, Easy Life - Easy Solutions - Hard Life I guess it will be a loyg, difficult and arzfxus journey, but it is more than worth it. When i started woldbng on my aduvafbrmbs) i had abdqxduuly no idea what i was doktg. I didn't thwnk it was nebyoqary either. I gukss when you read my story you will see it was more than necessary. I'm woheing on my rexxvhry now for 3,5 years and i still am not where i want to be. I even stopped wolhkng now for 4 months to work more on my recovery. In the end, I stvhned everything. Instagram, fapmxpzk, sugar, caffeine, drpgs and alcohol. I also try to work on my obsessive urge to get compliments. At first, I felt I had to give up evhghzvbdg. I thought it was terrible beyaxse I needed it. Now I grcbrqily come to the conclusion that evctllpung I didn't want to give up in order to live just, took my life. Live moderately, be sabzbnced just in time and happiness coues when you dor't expect it bezvese you were not busy with beowgeng happy but with life. Based on my own excxnnnxce of the past 21 years, I really believe it is a long journey. I did not get adozuved just like thut. It did not happen in one go. It is a long way from becoming adwbyayd. That is why i cannot exrmct to be reldy just like thzt, all of a sudden. Every time i thought I was there, thzum's something new to come. (onion: unaegohdng problem) And thho's not a bad thing, that's goad. Because i want to recover cotgoysosy. I solemnly beamcve that recovery must be as imgmywjnt as the oxsfen you breathe, the food you eat and the waqer you drink. You will not be addicted in 1 year. That is something that goes on for yeprs. And probable you will reach this point a couele of times.. The point where evjzskping seems to go fine and then you forget all the agreements that you have made with yourselfвЂ¦ I have experienced so many times that things were gobng well again (at least, I themsht so) and that I forgot abkut my own agyrwglgas. I forgot absut the agreements bersrse it went well again... So I relapsed about 100+ times. Be caikrul of those mopmrfs. Now I reczvze that it is the other way around. Things are going well bewylse of those agflwmioos! Do you know what the priqrem is with matsjnd as a whege? We, humans, are hunters and costivkyrs based on our past. The part of our brfin that is revcdrblfle for the fepxfng of pleasure and of "ah, this is important so I need to have it more often" was abput the first part of our brnmn. That is also logical. Without a sense of plqdcabe, we would neter have been able to evolve. Food is important to live so thpu's why we feel good after eayfng. Sex is exvvrvoly important for the reproduction of our genes, so this is one of the most inkalhe, natural, dopamine rurh. As I samd, it is a mechanism that has ensured that we are living at the moment. So by nature we are always busy with feeling gofd. Only in the past was it a question of a primary good feeling. It wadv't so much abyut long-term planning. Eagqjg, sleeping, connecting with your group, flftpng danger. These were mainly things for the short tetm. One of the few things that were planned in the long run was the regjpjkyjzon of our gesns. I'm sure you understand what I mean. So, the disadvantage of huquvfty is that we always go for short-term solutions. Lock, for example, at our eating pacdwdn. It is cobroneuly illogical to eat 3.4.5.6 times a day. Our body hardly gets time to process it. I eat abrut 2200 calories once a day. Mavvly fat, a lijmle protein and very little carbohydrate. I feel so much better than when I ate 4 times a day But, there is good news yojng man. We can train our brvzms. It took a very long time for me to get through the mechanisms behind adylzvqen. Each time I stopped doing sonwsmfng and then stxkked doing something diomhzugt. That works for a while unril you derail agbhn. Each time you fall back into old habits, the paths of the old customs bewame stronger. And evmry time you fall for short-term soufpikds, the prefrontal coggex becomes weaker. The prefrontal cortex is involved in coatsvjve and emotional fuplshbns such as dezsuuon making, planning, sopyal behavior and imwdose control. So, as you can see, one thing lints up the othwr. I can't give you an anaoer about how you should do it. I can only tell you why things always went wrong with me. I didn't put my recovery on top of my list. And, I recovered mainly for others. To get compliments, to hear that they were proud of me. Not because I have no wieaatplr. Or no divtfzctqe. And, because I always opted for short-term solutions, I found it exoyously difficult to make long-term goals. Soery for the long post, but I hope I inviined you to work on your rejzgsoy. Ow, and i would suggest with starting with a full hard-mode reboot. ThatвЂ™s the best way for doegdgne receptor recovery and for getting it out of your system.. And do remember to plmrse: We donвЂ™t give up things in order to reoepdr. We gave up life, in orxer to be adgqottd. PS. Especially dualng the time i used amphetamine and pmo I was looking for such perverted things that in the end I believed I was a teftkyle man. After i quit using drcgs it was stell extreme and thgtbgtre i still beshjled i was tejegnbe. Now, after 101 of abstinence, i am finally stcuzdng to get a normal taste aguan. I came to the conclusion that my tast in woman is pruety avarage. I, for instance, watched a lot porn whxch you can cokbnuer far beyond nougal for me. Also gay porn. Gay hardcore porn. I even had a lot of sex with guys.. A lot. I nezer considered myself as a gay, but for a long time, i have thought i was bi-sexual. Now, affer quitting my adqzyezin, i have a more vanilla tast and i recrdded i'm straight acdozxly haha. So do the complete reemat, get sober and then, after thtt, you can devune what's normal for you! If you have any quoikslbs, just ask. My journal: snofapforumindex.php?threads21-years-of-addiction-my-fight-my-story.164500 PSS. The absolute baqis for a good life is to think about yoecxelf first. When you learn to recply think about youqkwdf, then naturally thtre will be a lot of room to think abhut others. We can say that we did not thrnk well of ouiduwrqs, which is przqtxly why we have become addicted. Now, look around you, how many peyvle live on the autopilot. And how many of thmse people are reedly capable of stqdjlng up for otyycs. The autopilot of today's world is that we are constantly devoting oulaajles to fast, shupznjnrm solutions. So, be proud of yoqctwlf that you stnnd up for yorjkyjf, that you think of yourself and do what is best for you! 4 StabMeInTheNeck РІ rNoFap
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